sometimes i wonder what makes a partner cheat?
what counts as cheating?

i was reading an article on glamour.com & that was how i decided to blog on this topic. click on the picture.

take note there's 5pages for this article. be sure to read all of the pages. but if you are like my bf, who dont like reading this sorta things (except when it is about bikes. bahh.), then dont. maybe next time if i have an interesting article on bikes, i'll share it here.
but it would be like one in a thousand chance i am ever going to do that. haha.

anyhoos, enough of digression.

there are different scenarios in the article that points to cheating. sometimes, even something you thought is innocent enough could be considered as cheating.
& to each his/her own. what may be considered as cheating to one may not be considered as cheating to another. a very broad subject to be discussed on.

in my point of view,
if you want to cheat, dont.
but if you are too itchy backside, do it discreetly & make sure you do not hurt your partner.
but in singapore, its kinda difficult. it being a small country & all.
you partner will bound to find out.

i ever told fadzli,
if one day should he thinks he wants to cheat on me, just make sure its with another woman.
it will hurt, of course.
but i would be doubly hurt if he cheats on me with another man. haha.
not encouraging him to cheat on me, of course. but just in case. haha.

if the reason for you to cheat is based on your unhappiness with your partner,
the best thing to do is to talk to him/her. wouldnt it be better to talk about what you're unsatisfied about in your rship rather than cheat? wouldnt that be a win-win situation where your partner will know what about him/her that irks you?

& if you decide to cheat on your partner because you do not love him/her anymore, rather than cheat, might as well break up, right? what's the use of you being in a rship with someone you do not love? you would want to be in a rship because you love that person & you would like your future to have that person in it, right? being with someone you dont love is defeating the whole rship thing.

& it is much more horrible when the person you are cheating with knows that you are attached. yet, he/she agrees into being the 'other person'. wth!

so, have i cheated? yes.
have i been cheated on? yes.
& i know the feeling suck. big time.
but nope, the 'yes' to both questions above was in a rship not with fadzli. =)

but if you do cheat/get cheated on,
just remember that what goes around, comes around.
& that karma's a big time bitch when it bites you hard in the ass. =)

*disclaimer: no, fadzli's not cheating on me. & no, i am not cheating on fadzli.

Labels: article, cheating, love, random thoughts, relationship